It’s everyone’s worst nightmare. Learning that the person that you love and have placed your trust in has been misleading you or having an affair behind your back. It’s a scenario that keeps many people up at nights, wondering what their partner is doing. Many people ask themselves, and me, whether there are cheating signs that they should keep an eye on.
Sometimes the worries are unfounded. But 44% of unmarried people do admit to cheating at some point during their relationship. This makes the possibility of your spouse cheating become a reality. The numbers for married individuals is significantly lower, at 20% of men and 13% of women. But that still amounts to almost 1 in 5 marriages suffering from infidelity and broken trust.
If you suspect your partner is cheating on you, you need to ask yourself an important question. Are they’re showing the common cheating signs? The clues are hardly cut and dry. Your partner could meet all of them, and still be completely loyal to you! But checking their behaviour against these indications is a good place to start for examining your relationship.
Without further ado, here are 4 signs that your significant other may be cheating on you:
Changes in behaviour
Everyone is different, and behaves in different ways throughout a relationship. But when behaviours that you’ve come to expect from your partner start to change, it can be a big sign that something in the relationship itself has changed.
It could be that they’re having an affair. Perhaps their feelings towards you have changed. It could even be that they’re just stressed at work. As the person who probably knows your partner best, you’d be best placed to know whether their behaviour is erratic, or if this is what happens when they’ve had a bad day. You’d be best to know whether this is one of the cheating signs for your relationship.
Speaking to your significant other is probably the best place to start. But it won’t always give you the answers that you’re looking for. That’s why it’s best not to take this sign on its own as evidence of an affair.
Secrecy, Lying & Dishonesty
When your partner starts trying to hide things from you, it could be a sign of a surprise party in the works. Or it could be a sign of something more sinister.
When newfound secrecy pairs with changes in behaviour – not wanting you to read their texts or emails when they were fine with it before, for example – then the relationship dynamic has definitely shifted. Whether it’s because of an affair, or a breakdown in trust, is hard to say. But if you haven’t given your partner any reason to distrust you, this secretive behaviour is a sign of trouble.
Often hand-in-hand with secrecy, lying is another one of the big cheating signs in relationships. Catching a partner in a lie is often a well-known way of finding out whether a relationship is on the rocks. But once again, isn’t necessarily a definite sign of cheating. Your partner may be lying for other reasons. But even if that is the case – do you want to be in a relationship with someone who lies to you?
Unexplained Expenses
Financials are one of the biggest causes of fights in relationships. And when money starts going missing, or is spent on frivolities that go unexplained, it is another serious indication of a problem within your relationship. Particularly when missing money is joined by unexplained absences, it becomes a breach of trust that will need further examination. Whether it’s one of the cheating signs indicating another relationship in the works, or another problem like substance abuse, unexplained expenses are never a good thing in a relationship.
Changes in Intimacy
Sometimes an affair leads to your partner being less intimate with you, since they’re getting their needs met elsewhere. Sometimes it can lead to more intimacy, as they feel guilty and want to make up for their indiscretion. But when the level of intimacy in your relationship changes without any clear reason, it’s definitely one of the cheating signs to look out for. It suggests that something in the relationship itself has changed. Affairs are the natural go-to explanation, since libido is so closely tied with intimacy. But there could be other factors involved, like stress or depression.
On their own, none of these cheating signs is a clear indication of your significant other having an affair. But when your partner starts showing multiple signs, it is clear that something in your relationship isn’t working. It can be difficult to see these cheating signs from within your relationship, however. When you suspect an affair but don’t want to confront your partner about it, or when you suspect that they’re not telling you the whole truth, it’s often a good idea to seek outside help.
As a private investigator, I know where to look for the truth. I can give you the peace of mind that you need to know where your partner stands in your relationship, and whether any extra-marital affairs are underway. You can trust me to work discreetly, ensuring your confidentiality. I can help you to ensure that your relationship truly is built on trust that is earned, rather than assumed.
Contact me to learn more about Invest-Centre’s relationship investigations, and how they can help you and your spouse be happy together.
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